This post is mainly for me, but I wanted to share my thoughts. Maybe I could call this Thirsty Thursday (Thirsty for God's Word?). Recently someone told me that I shouldn't be a stay at home mom. Their main reasons were: because my husband works too hard, he is going to leave me b/c I don't work (so NOT true btw), it will make my friends jealous, I shouldn't be that lazy. I think that was all that was said. It broke my heart that someone would say such hurtful things.
I went before the Lord and prayed that if this is what I was supposed to do then I needed to know from Him. The only person's thoughts on what I do that counts is His! I knew that He would lead me the way that I am to go. He knew that I was hurt and now deeply confused and I needed answers. Then a friend of mine, that knew nothing of what happened, wrote a blog about being a "Titus Woman" I was curious and so I read the whole thing twice! This was my answer, now I just needed to break this apart and soak in it.
The scripture that she used: Titus 2:3-5 "the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things - that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed." (nKJV)
This stayed with me and I have broken it down: this is what the verse says to me....
the older women (your mother, your grandmothers, your aunts, the women in the church that are older that you) likewise, that they be reverent in behavior (they are supposed to be good role models for me to follow teaching me about God's word and how to pray for my family), not slanderers (they/we shouldn't gossip, we shouldn't break down each other or any other women-[or man/husbands]- because we need to lift each other up!), not given to much wine (you should know what this means), teachers of good things that they admonish (teach) the young women (this means I am teaching my daughter starting the day she was born all the way up to anyone that is younger than I am) to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet (self-controlled, curbing my desires and impulses, to be temperate), chaste (pure, modest, clean - watch what I say!), homemakers (caring for the house, the keeper of my home - I need to know what is coming in and going out!), good (pleasant, joyful, agreeable, happy, upright, honourable), obedient to their own husbands (to voluntarily arrange myself under my husband, to heed to his advice, to help carry a burden - NOT to be a doormat but a helpmate to my husband.) that the word of God not be blasphemed.
***used Strong's Concordance to break this verse down.***
I know that not everyone can or wants to stay home. I have been on both ends of that spectrum. I have worked long days on a job (put my child on the bus just to make it home in time to hopefully tuck him into bed). I have worked part-time. I have also had the opportunity to stay home, which I now have that opportunity again. I haven't always wanted to stay home. I used to think that one had to have money to stay home or they would get bored. This is the first time that I have enjoyed being a stay at home mother.
I honestly believe this is what I have been called to do - at least at this point in time in my life. I do plan to work outside (or inside) of our home. I would love the opportunity to work from home, (which I received some info on today, yay!). I believe that I am meant to home school my son next year and that God will provide answers and guidence for that as well. I am thankful that I do have a truly wonderful husband that wants me to stay home and wants me to take care of our children and home school our son. I praise God that He keeps sending me answers to my prayers. He is leading me the way that I need to go and I will follow and I will listen. He is our provider and my God!
Thank you for listening to me go on and on...but I really just needed to write this out. I struggled the thought of actually posting this all day. Maybe it will help someone else who is going through the same thing. Maybe it will encouage any of the women that I know in my life. I pray for all of you and you are all very dear to my heart.